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Kegels 3

February 1, 2019

The other elements of Big Grace in the Juno-Sedna chart, and the upcoming Sedna Station chart, are two Diamond Stars.

A T-Square (drawn as a red triangle) is made up of two planets Opposite one another, with a third at their Midpoint (ie, three Signs from each).  It means a Challenge.  The ultimate aim is to become Adept at this Challenge, but it’s via the School of Hard Knocks.  If we haven’t Figured Out what we’re supposed to be Learning, we usually Experience a T-Square as Long-Suffering Frustration.

I mean, how would we know, if we didn’t have our chart drawn up?  And even then, an Ego astrologer would concur that we were screwed.  We’d just think it was horrible Karma!

That’s what I thought about my own T-Squares until I Realized that the Fourth Harmonic (a Square goes one Fourth of the way around the Zodiac) is about Dominion – Healthy Control, Mastery!  (Or, without the possible hidden implication of Slavery as the inverse of Mastery, Adeptness.)  Dominion is the Fourth Principle in the Tarot’s Major Arcana.

A natal T-Square is a Life-Long graduate seminar, where there are no real Answers, only better Questions, better because they lead to a fuller understanding of the Depth and Breadth of the Issue that the T-Square presents.  So when we Reframe it thus, each Bummer in our Life-Long series of Bummers, has taught us a new Principle, Subtlety, Corollary, Insight, or Breakthrough about the subject of our seminar.

Each time we thought we were going to get it “Right” this time!  We thought we could make External Reality match our Perfect Pictures.  And every time we Failed.  But each time we Learned more about it.  Each time we got a little closer to What We Want, though many times we’ve taken wide Detours into places we didn’t know were Related until we went there.  Truth is, we’ll never Achieve our Perfect Pictures, because Perfect Pictures are 2D Snapshots, while Real Life is a Hologram in an Infinite number of Dimensions.

Achieving our Perfect Pictures would be like trying to Grok the nature of a Butterfly by pinning it to a board.  The hardest thing about a T-Square is that we can’t give it up.  Dropping the class is not an Option, because What We Want is an Irrevocable Compulsion.  It’s What We’re Here For.  We often settle for an Addiction – we get so Frustrated by our Lack of Success, which we take as a Personal Failure, that we divert ourself with the small but Satisfying Pleasure that we can get from Sugar, Alcohol, MJ, Sex, or worse.  It’s Temporary, but by the time we Indulge, we forget our Frustration.

Let’s take an Example.  For instance, suppose we hypothesize someone who has a Life-Long Challenge (T-Square) to Figure Out how to set up Effective Boundaries (Haumea-Pallas-Aletheia) between their Soul (Uranus) and their Ego so they can Approach their LifeTime Mission (North Node).  Oh, gosh, that’s one of the T-Squares in the Juno-Sedna chart, isn’t it.  What a coincidence…

The North Node is symbolized by those earphones in the lower right.  The red triangle that points to the earphones is the T-Square.  Well, we know already that our Mission is like Differential Equations or Calculus – we never really get there, we just keep cutting the distance in half between us and it…

If What We Want is Water and it’s always just out of Reach, that’s the Picture of Frustration.  We need to Reframe it – we may never get any Water in this Lifetime, but we’re sure going to Learn everything there is to Learn about Striving for it.  And probably, literally, Die trying.  Which is Cool – we was gonna Die anyway, so why not Die for a Cause.  And there aren’t any Causes more important to us than What We Want.

So, this particular “Challenge to Figure Out how to set up Effective Boundaries between our Soul and our Ego so we can Approach our LifeTime Mission” isn’t Life-Long, it’s only temporary.  We’re using the Mean Nodes, and they move about a Degree-and-a-half per month, so this Uranus-Haumea-North Node T-Square will only be with us for a few months.  But meanwhile, here in the context of wresting Power out of Fear (Sedna Stationary), finding a Boundary  between Soul and Rebirth that Serves our Mission is a Challenge that Confronts us.

For instance, the best Boundary here between Soul and Mission might be no Boundary, and Surrendering our Sovereignty to that Degree might Scare the Living Daylights out of our Ego, not to mention how it could Frighten our Dependents, as we might be Compelled to Abandon them for some abstruse Project like Saving Antarctica for the Penguins.  Or it could Drive us to Drink.  Here’s how some folks might do these Boundary Games…

“Full of anticipation, we set off and when we had adjusted our consciousness to the high vibration, we found ourselves in the Fairy sector.  However serious the reason for our visit may be, first we must play.  This is a necessity and not a frivolity because, until we have rushed about as fast as we can, there remain clinging to us, Earth ideas, and until we are rid of them, we are unable to concentrate.  What fun this period is.

“We burst and reform only to disintegrate again almost immediately.  In this destruction, the atoms of our bodies change their positions and one of our amusements is to stop them from rejoining those of the person to whom they rightfully belong.  Of course we can never prevent them from doing this for long, but sometimes we keep them poised between the two of us, they look so funny that we begin laughing, our concentration vanishes until we are once more complete and ready to burst again.”

–Normus, “Travels,” in Daphne Charters, Forty Years with the Fairies, p.209.

So, that’s a T-Square.  But weren’t we supposed to be talking about Diamond Stars?  Oh, ok, I remember now.

See the two green lines rising from the North Node?  That’s called a Finger of God, and it means Pay Attention to this!!  Some folks also call it a “Yod.”  In these charts, red lines represent Challenge, green Curiosity, and blue Grace.  Notice that when we connect the Yod to the T-Square, a web of blue lines is created on the other side of the central Opposition – literally, a Bowl of Grace.

This is a Diamond Star, and it means that the T-Square is a Self-Resolving Challenge because of the Grace in the blue lines, which make a double Trine Bridge, or two Easy Alternative Paths, across the T-Square.  Like an escalator up the side of the Cliff we Expected to have to climb.  So our two escalators in this Diamond Star are Suspending Disbelief or Allowing our Beliefs to Shift (Klotho-Vesta), and Trusting our Forbidden Genius (Eurydike-Ixion), which will require a Shift in our Values (Venus).

If we are to Trust the Genius of our True Self, we’re probably going to have to Give Up some Obedience to the Values of our former Masters or Programmers.  Recognizing that they were Doing the Best They Knew How at the Time, we just know that this is the time when we have to substitute Self-Trust for the relative Security of their Truth.

This is a Diamond Square, so this just happens, it’s not something we have to work hard at, though we may have to work a bit at Surrendering our Resistance to it – at least enough to enable us to Notice the Difference.  After all, the overall Work this week is Growth of Consciousness – Juno-Sedna.

So the Bottom Line of this Diamond Star is that both our Beliefs and our Values will Shift, or have already Shifted.  Have you Noticed any of that in your own Experience yet?  This is a big Change in our Identity, since Values and Beliefs are the Foundations of Who We Are.  And an Effortless Shift.  We haven’t mentioned Nemesis or Ego Death once, and they aren’t involved.

Well, not in an obvious way anyway.  Nemesis is Octile (Adjustment) to Mars (Action) and Trioctile (Rebalancing) to Pluto (the Underlying Energy).  Without the Diamond Star that would be enough to create some Ego Death, and at any rate no Change of Identity takes place without some Ego Death.  Death doesn’t have to be Unpleasant, however, if we Take Ourselves Lightly, like the Angels do.  That Mars-Pluto Square is about An Angel with a Harp, recall.

If you’ve Noticed your Beliefs, Values, Identity Shifting in the last several days, have you Noticed any signs of Ego Death? Getting Lost in a familiar place, for instance, where it feels like part of you knows exactly where you are, but another part is Experiencing it as Brand New.  That’s an important kind of Shift to Notice as we Grow our Consciousness.

The second Diamond Star (notice the double green lines emanating from the point of the T-Square) is focused on the Stellium in Libra – Haumea-Aletheia-Pallas, or Rebirth of True Boundaries.  If our Boundaries are Out of Balance with our Soul or our Goals or our Mission, we won’t know Who to Trust, or what to eat for breakfast, or when to Meditate and when to Act.  So this is a Big Deal.

The roots of this Yod are Chiron (Despair/Miracles) and Juno-Sedna itself (Bringing our Fears into Consciousness).  As we’ve said, when our Fears are Unconscious, they Control our Life.  In order to Overcome them (or rather, Love them into becoming the Power that they really are) we need first to Bring them into Consciousness.  Despair is totally appropriate when our Unconscious Fears rule our Lives, because we’re Powerless against them.

But fortunately, Chironean Despair is easy to fix – alls we gotta do is Poor-Sweetheart ourself.  We say to ourself, “You Poor Sweetheart, you’re Feeling Overwhelmed, aren’t you.”  That statement Shifts our Identity from Despair to Compassion.  If we don’t Change the Subject afterwards though, we may get sucked back into Despair (though we could always Poor-Sweetheart ourself again).

Once we slip out of our stiff, scratchy Despair shirt and pull on our soft, warm Compassion hoodie, we can Change the Subject – do something else entirely, and divert our Attention.  That will allow the Overwhelming Challenges that Triggered our Despair to Resolve themselves on their own, without the Interference of our Anxiety.  After all, We are now Compassion, not Worry.

All Prayers are Answered, and a “You Poor Sweetheart…” is a Prayer of sorts, a Surrendering of the Overwhelm to your Higher Power.  It’s also a Loving Moment like Gary Craig talks about in his Unseen Therapist process (https://www.emofree.com/), which is a very Powerful Healing technique to Learn.  It’s also Easy to Learn if you’ve been PIAVAing for a while (https://astrobuss.wordpress.com/category/manifestation/piava-review/).

We don’t talk about them often, but the seven short green lines are also important, and you can take advantage of them in any chart you find them in.  They’re called “Unxes” because an “Unx” is one twelfth of something.  The Twelfth Harmonic is about Pattern-Breaking.  That’s one of the most Powerful Skills we can develop.  After all, Karma is just Patterns, so if we can Break those Patterns, we’re Golden.

In fact, the South Node (Karma itself!) has two Unxes, one to Trusting our Forbidden Genius (Aletheia-Ixion-Venus), and the other to Suspending Disbelief (Klotho-Vesta).  The implication is that these two Intentional Acts will shake a good deal of our Karma and Self-Sabotage Loose.  We won’t turn that down.

The other Unxes and Opportunities for some relatively Easy Pattern-Breaking are…

  • Suspending Disbelief to Despair/Miracles (Chiron).  An excellent Example of that – when you encounter what feels like a familiar Bummer about to repeat, Suspend your Belief that it’s Inevitable.  It AintJust don’t Grab it.  Just slip out the back, Jack; just get off the bus, Gus – there must be fifty ways to Leave your Karma.  And don’t for a moment think that your Kinship with your Karma isn’t a Love Relationship – how long have the two of you been Joined at the Hip after all?
  • Despair/Miracles to your Soul (Uranus).  What keeps you from Uniting your Soul and your Ego?  You don’t even need to know it, you can just say to yourself, “You Poor Sweetheart, You aren’t Identifying with your Soul as much as you could be, are you.”  Then just Change the Subject and Enjoy!
  • Soul to Consciousness of Fear (Juno-Sedna).  I mean, what would your Soul have to Fear, anyway?  Certainly not Annihilation, it’s Immortal by definition.  Abandonment might Sadden Her, but even that’s Doubtful, as She surely knows that Getting Lost is the first stage of Getting Found.  We may have already Resolved all of our Sedna Station Issues with that last Poor Sweetheart.  Wouldn’t that be great!
  • Consciousness of Fear to Unlimited Potential (dwarf planet Chaos).  Of course we’ve already Kegeled our Fear into Power, but even then, Unlimited is pretty Scary.  Reminds us of when we used to Imagine walking off the Edge of the Flat Earth, or those Nightmares we used to have about the Grand Canyon.  Better to PIAVA our Unlimited Potential.  How else will we shake it free from our existing Limiting Beliefs?
  • Unlimited Potential to our Mission (North Node).  How does that Feel – Exciting?  If it doesn’t, Breathe.  Better?  You should be Feeling a Surge of Energy up your Spine.  We may even be Wondering, what the Hell is my Mission, anyway?  If so, great – Wonder is a hidden PIAVA (don’t try to Figure It Out though – that will Limit it).  You could make it PIVAWA if you want, or even WIPAVA.

It’s really pretty Simple math – Fear Plus Breathing Equals Excitement, Fear Plus Kegels Equals Power.  We’ll probably get lots of Opportunities to practice both over the next week.

Self-Judgment and Self-Love V

January 19, 2019

If we temporarily de-emphasize the Grand Octile and just look at the same-Degree Angles to the Sappho Station…

…we can see that a Challenge around Action (Mars T-Square, the red triangle) pops out, and that Action is somehow an Easy Alternative (Trine Bridge, blue lines) to our Growing Pains (the Sappho-Jupiter Divide) and Spiritual Challenge (Neptune T-Square).  Before we sign up for a Yoga class (to Actively Stretch Into Expanded Self-Love) though, we may need to deal with the Action Challenge (Mars T-Square).

That Challenge is about how much we Realize that we have Choice (Moira) around the suggestion that The Most Important Thing (Saturn) is Transcending (Bee-Zed) our Need to Please Others (Hylonome).  Codependence is a very easily Defended excuse for postponing Self-Love because we were Programmed to Believe that Pleasing Others was Noble.  How old were we – maybe 2 or 3 – when we were taught to Share?

Which brings up an interesting point about those who never were taught to Share.  Could there be Epiphanies for them around their Control issues?  Probably not, but we can hope.

All of which suggests that perhaps we should Choose to Share more, with Trusted friends, around our closely held secrets and our most cherished possessions.  Boundaries are clearly involved in this Dance (Pallas-Haumea).  If there’s any Guilt (Nemesis) involved, Sharing more of ourself, when it’s Safe, would be even more Powerful.  And which suggests that it would behoove us to Stop Giving Away our Power, and Stop Giving Away anything else that Triggers our Scarcity but which we feel compelled to Share because we Should.  In fact, maybe…

The Bottom Line around Self-Love is always about Examining our “Shoulds.” 

Any discomfort in our Shoulders would underline that (Sappho Station in Gemini).  Then we can do that Yoga class (Saturn-BZ-Hylonome in Sagittarius) to start making it a Body Memory.

It may be useful to Remember that the Physical Dimension is just another Perspective on the Unitary Wholeness of Life, along with the Emotional, Spiritual, and Mental Perspectives.  Switching between these Perspectives – for instance, into the Physical to address an Emotional conundrum – often creates what appear to be Miracles.

The Call to Action (Mars T-Square) has two Easy Alternatives (Trine Bridges) – one to Breaking Oaths (Orcus) and one to Surrendering to Spirit (Neptune).  In fact the two of them make what’s called a Golden Rectangle (the big blue rectangle – it’s called “Golden” because the ratio between the long and short sides is the Golden Angle of Sacred Geometry fame).

We interpret a Golden Rectangle by Dancing with the diagonals.  We’ve already discussed the Choice-Shoulds (Moira v. Saturn-BZ-Hylonome) diagonal; the other is about Oaths and Sprituality (Orcus-Neptune).  The Key to this may simply be that Either/Ors are always Political; it’s Both/Ands that are Spiritual.  Sure, Religion can Inspire the Spiritual (Awe, Wonder, and Respect for All Things), but Religions, except in their Esoteric forms, usually boil down to a set of Rules, and often Require an Oath of Allegiance to these Either/Or Rules.

When we make a Promise or Vow or Oath that’s Either/Or, and if we don’t Betray it, we gradually Internalize it.  It becomes an Integral part of who we are, and we Accept it as a Value, forgetting that it derived not from the Heart but from the mind.  It becomes a Karmic Limitation for us in subsequent Lifetimes.  Stretching our Values (Venus-Jupiter) is part of the Sappho-Station/Total-Lunar-Eclipse Global Epiphany (Grand Octile).

Well, maybe not quite Global; the Eclipse is only visible from the Western Hemisphere, so maybe it’s Western Civilization and Colonial Supremacy that’s scheduled for Epiphany.

Truth Resides in the Compassionate Heart, not the Dualistic mind, and Truth is different for every person.  When we try to run our Life from Either/Or Values that we Learned from someone else, rather than from Both/And Values that we Discovered were True for us, we Live Falsely, constantly Betraying our True Self.  We’ll never find Self-Love there.

Self-Love Eclipse II

January 28, 2018

Marilyn Raffaele reminds us at http://www.onenessofall.com/newest.html that…

Living unconditional love does not mean loving troublemakers in the human three dimensional sense of love as being emotion, attraction, and approval.  You love with Divine love, which means from a conscious realization of their oneness with Source and the reality of their true Divine Nature in spite of any and all appearances to the contrary.

We can extend that to our Self-Love.  She continues…

People or circumstances in your life may seem to hold power over you leading you to believe that you are trapped and cannot move beyond or change something.  Realize that anything you bestow power on, be it person, place, or thing, will continue to hold that power until you and you alone remove it.  Once power is given, it will continue to act as a power maintaining and sustaining whatever issues are involved simply because it continues to be fed and kept alive by belief and fear.

“Know, accept, integrate, and attain the consciousness that the master and all real teachers of truth attained–that God alone is Power.  Because you are creators, you endow things with whatever power they seem to have.  Nothing but the fullness of Divine Consciousness is or ever can be power, for in reality absolutely nothing else exists.  All appearances of duality and separation whether good or bad, are reflections of material sense–conditioned mind interpretations.”

Illusion, in other words.

Last week’s Perfection of Timing (Grand Septile), at https://astrobuss.wordpress.com/2018/01/20/timelines/, has evolved back into the sort of Chrysalis Configuration that we saw the week prior (https://astrobuss.wordpress.com/2018/01/13/times-up-i/), while the Grand Septile was forming.  A Chrysalis invites us to Break Out and Fly.

There are two major foci in this chart of the 31 January (5:30 am PST) Self-Love Total Lunar Eclipse, which occurs just a day after Perihelion, close enough to be considered a “Supermoon.” 

One major focus is Confusion (Neptune) – Material Confusion and Spiritual Clarity.  Its corresponding minor focus is Manifestation (Makemake), advising us that at this Time we’ll Manifest more Easily by Extending our Vibrations, as Dan Scranton’s Arcturian friends often advise us (eg https://astrobuss.wordpress.com/2018/01/20/timelines/), rather than using Plan-Execute or other Dynamic Creation techniques.

The other major focus is Letting Go of the False Values which Cement our Karma to us (Venus-South Node).  Ultimately our Values derive from our Heart’s Truth, but they are always subject to intellectual Interpretation.  And many are left over from our Programming.  The combination of Programming and Interpretation can make them Toxic.  Time to Clean them Up.  Your circumstances will show you what needs Revision.  The corresponding minor focus is our Mission (North Node); Aligning our Values with our Mission will accelerate the Planet’s Growth.

Suzanne Lie adds some Perspective…

http://suzanneliephd.blogspot.com/2018/01/you-are-your-fifth-dimensional-self.html

“As your perception of reality begins to and continues to expand, you will be able to consciously perceive higher and higher dimensional versions of reality, as well as those who inhabit those higher realities.

“You may even be surprised to discover that some of these higher versions of reality are quite familiar, and many of the inhabitants of these realities are quite familiar.  Many of them are your ‘childhood imaginary friends,’ or the ‘hidden voice that got you through a difficult time,’ or the ‘invisible one who comforts you when no one else could ever understand.’  In fact, you will also find that many of… the ones who inhabit this reality seem to be sending you love and caring.  You will also, eventually, find the YOU who is resonating to the fifth dimensional octave of your multidimensional self.

“This ‘YOU’ does not have a 3D job, but you DO have a Mission, which is the reason why you took this third dimensional vessel.  This Mission will NOT be a mission for your personal benefit or enhancement, as that would be third dimensional thinking.

“Your higher dimensional self is your Multidimensional SELF, who is NOT bound by third dimensional temptation, sorrows and hard work.  However, within your third dimensional self who faces temptations, sorrows and hard work every day, is [a] VERY brave [self] for ‘splitting off’ from the collective of your Multidimensional SELF to take on the comparatively low frequency third dimensional self.

“Therefore, we remind you that your fifth dimensional, and higher expressions of your Multidimensional SELF, are NOT better than you.  YOU are the courageous ones who left behind our higher frequency expressions of SELF in your higher dimensional Ship or Homeworld, to wear a simple, fragile, third dimensional earth vessel.

“And, why did you come to Gaia’s greatly wounded planet?  You volunteered to take your current earth vessel so that YOU can assist—not with personal ascension, as you are already ascended—but to assist with Planetary Ascension.

“You can remember lives and realities in which you, too, damaged Gaia for your own personal gain.  You can also remember incarnations in which you tried, and failed, to protect dear Gaia from the great harm that humanity has done to her

“One may say, ‘Oh it wasn’t us. It was the weather.’  However, the native peoples have always known of the great power that humanity has to effect the weather.  Every thought and every emotion leaves the consciousness of the beings who dwell on Gaia to influence the reality of that NOW.”

She has more.

Big Doin’s This Week III

September 4, 2017

I keep bouncing off of thoughts about this, so I better scoot them off in your direction…

Then the Full Moon on 6 September (12 am PDT), on the Eurydike-Neptune Opposition (Trust Spirit) near the Virgo-Pisces Midpoint, which makes another Flying Squirrel Configuration.

Then ten hours later Nemesis (Ego Death) goes Direct, at 22 Capricorn, followed fourteen hours after that by the Station of Ixion (Forbidden Genius) in 24 Sagittarius.  In these Degrees we unleash the same almost-Grand-Unx Pattern that we saw in the Saturn Station at https://astrobuss.wordpress.com/2017/08/24/eclipsalypse-iii/ .

I’ve already used Elsa’s Let-It-Go suggestion to reverse a minor physical condition I’ve been concerned about for the last few weeks. 

If thoughts are balloons floating around like cartoon conversations, then pictures must be herds of them, thousands strong.  Here’s our Full Moon Flying Squirrel Confefe…

The Moon (Instinct, Manifestation), with Neptune (Cultural Unconscious, Spiritual Clarity, Material Confusion), is the head, and the Sun (the Heart of the Matter), with asteroid Eurydike (Trust), is the tail.  The forepaws are Pallas (Boundaries) and Pluto (Transformation, Trance Reformation); the hindpaws are Hopi (Respect for All Things) and Venus-Veritas (Weighing our Values against the standard of Truth).

So, what does a Flying Squirrel Configuration indicate?  It’s three major but smaller Configurations overlaying one another.  First there’s the Square Fez (Challenges Resolved through Curiosity), then the Kite (Dumb-Luck Grace Focused in a particular Direction), and finally the Finger of God (Pay Attention!) that strengthens the Kite’s Directionality.  It’s Symmetrical across one axis (here Magnetic, Virgo-Pisces) but not the other (here Dynamic, Gemini-Sagittarius).  The primary Energy Flow is toward Moon-Neptune in Pisces.

That says “Pay Attention to Letting Go of any Obstacles you have to Manifesting What You Need through PIAVAing (and of course through any other Magnetic process that PIAVA seems to exclude).  Using Dynamic means would be off Balance.  The two planets at the top of the Kite, and focus of the Finger of God – Moon and Neptune, are also both Magnetic, putting a few exclamations behind the interpretation. 

The Focus is Water, and the Grand Trine is Earth, so we’re looking at the Emotional result of Material Manifestation.  That probably isn’t Security, as is often the goal of Manifestation, but Synchrony.  When we’ve been Struggling to Manifest something, and then break through, we Feel like the various parts of ourself are getting on the same page.  Pisces is about Finishing up a major Project, so we might be bold enough to tentatively agree with Dan and his Arcturian friends, that we’re getting close to Letting Go of our Obstacles to 5D.

Do we get any hints about the remaining Obstacles?  Yes, the Squares in the Square Fez will inform us.  There’s Pluto-Hopi – are we Allowing the Transformation of any remaining Obstacles to Respect for All Things?  “Coincidentally,” Brenda Hoffman wrote about that just a few hours ago, using the framework of perps, victims, and caretakers…

https://lifetapestrycreations.wordpress.com/2017/09/04/new-powers-or-ineffective-actions/

And there’s Pallas to Venus-Veritas; do our Boundaries match the Truth of our Values?  Marilyn Raffaele spoke of this in her Channeling last week…

http://www.onenessofall.com/newest.html

“Because you now know that you are creators, you must honestly ask yourselves; ‘What am I choosing to create?’  Do you intend to continue creating images of duality and separation simply because the world says it is the reality or because these things are familiar and comfortable? … The time has come to rest in truth, be the truth, and live the truth, releasing every remaining concept or belief built upon beliefs of separation from Source.”

But “Fake It till you Make It” doesn’t feel in synch with asteroid Veritas.  This week it’s more about using our Honesty for a Searching and Fearless Inventory of where we still have Separation Values, where we still lack Respect for All Things.  Then looking to see what part of our Self we still Reject.  Whatever we don’t Respect is a Mirror – a Funhouse Mirror – for some part of ourself which still hasn’t “Earned” our Self-Love.  But Self-Love isn’t Earned – it’s Granted.

Funhouse Mirrors are tricky.  We usually can’t just take something we fail to Respect and translate it literally to ourself.  It’s usually at the very least “or something like that.”  For instance, what is it about the Antichrist that I React to?  We could start with its Sociopathy of course, and its constant Exaggerating and Lying, and its ostentatious Wealth, not to mention its Celebration of us-them Separation.  That should give us enough to Work on for starters.  Plus noticing that I’m not even willing to grant it Humanity. 

So what are my True Values around Sociopathy, Truthfulness, Wealth, and Inclusion?  I hear my mother’s Voice very clearly here – that means that what I Believe to be my Values may actually be hers, and may or may not be mine.  Does my Behavior match these Values?  Am I Self-Loving, or Self-Judging, about my Behaviors around Compassion, Truth, Generosity, and Inclusion?  We usually think of Boundaries as being between us and Other, but there are also Boundaries between Values and Behaviors, and my Emotional Reactions to my own Behaviors will inform me about those Boundaries, and about the Truth of my Values, which may always be a “work in progress.”  This is a Powerful week for homework.