Community and Accountability

Excerpts from Aluna Joy Yaxkin’s Newsletter from today…

“First, it’s clear that what is arriving for us now cannot be assessed alone. The monk-like sojourn experience is no longer valid, not for long term. This new world we are entering is inter-connected, but not dependent, and is fueled by community, and this community is to be connected to the earth and the cosmos… Secondly, we are being asked to hold a unique balanced presence and it was clear we do not understand what this is. . . Not yet anyway…

“I may not be totally clear about what this presence actually is, because it’s not something that can come from the mind, or can be explained with words. It radiates from the heart. There is no pretense or specialness emanating from this presence. In fact it’s anything but. It is an egoless quiet power, a presence. It is easy. It is simple. It is truth. It is love. It is about showing up authentically all the way.”

Her full message is at https://www.facebook.com/alunajoyyaxkin, right-hand column, scroll down.

Jupiter, whose Energy is Lit Up by Standing Still in the Sky till 3:02 pm PST 23 November 2022 (GMT 11:02 pm 23rd; IST 4:32 am 24th; AEDT Qld 9:02 am 24th), Expands Everything, including the Karmic Blocks that we’re Working on. That’s actually a Blessing, though it’s likely to Feel quite the opposite. One of quickest ways we have to Reject Emotions we don’t like, is to Blame them on someone else. “You make me Angry!” “It makes me so Sad when you say that.” “You’ve Made my Day!” Our favorite Emotions to Reject are our Abandonment and our Suffocation.

We Feel Our Abandonment when we Feel Lonely and “Miss” someone, when we Feel Ignored or Discounted, especially while Sharing Vulnerable Emotions, or when we’re Disrespected or Discriminated against. We Feel Our Suffocation when someone “crowds” us, Intrudes upon the Physical Space we want around us in the Moment, asks questions that are Uncomfortable for us in Moment, or when we feel like someone is “Interrogating” us about a Sensitive Issue, with little or no Empathy. When our Abandonment or Suffocation is Triggered, it is so Easy to Judge and Blame the other person and make them Accountable for Our Feelings, which is a Dead End Growth-Wise.

Most of Our Abandonment and Suffocation is Karmic. While every Child will Encounter Abandonment and Suffocation, it’s not likely to become much of an Issue for anyone if it isn’t Karmic. However, when we look at how much Abandonment and Suffocation influence History and Politics, we have to conclude that it’s a Big Issue for Huperity. How many Wars can be traced to Insults? Certainly All of the Religious Wars. Abuse is the epitome of Suffocation. “Feminism” is all about Abandonment (Lack of Respect) and Suffocation (Abuse). Abandonment is a major Enforcement tool for the Patriarchy, as in “You’re Fired!” So we’re dealing with Karma that’s more than Personal. Culturally Approved Karma is always harder to Let Go.

Abandonment and Suffocation are things that We Feel, and All of our Emotions Are Our Own. No one else ever makes us Feel Angry or Sad or Loved or Excited or Scared. What they say or do may Trigger Our Feelings, but those Feelings Are Ours, and if we ever want to be Free or Enlightened or 5D’d, we have to Own Them as Ours and Ours Alone. Failing to Own our Emotions can dump us out of having Control Over Time, and always Separates us from the Reality of Interpersonal Dynamics.

Marshall Rosenberg, a Rogerian psychologist, developed a way of Speaking and Hearing that he called “Non-Violent Communication,” or “NVC,” that shifts our Orientation toward our Feelings into Ownership. It’s simple to describe, but very difficult to adhere to in practice. Regardless, it teaches us about Ownership of our Emotions, so it’s very useful even if we never get it right. For instance, “You make me Angry!” becomes…

“When you called me an Asshole, I Felt Angry, which Feels Imbalanced to me. I Need to Feel Balanced, so I’m wondering if you could tell me what it was that struck you as Asinine.”

Or, these days, “I Need to Feel Safe, so are you willing to tell me whether or not you have a gun or a knife or a hammer?”

No guarantee that it will keep your Nose unbroken, but at least it Avoids Blame and Judgment, whether the other person recognizes that or not. Your aim isn’t to Own being an Asshole, or to get even, it’s to Create or Continue Connection with the other person, though Marshall always emphasized that how long or hard you want to Work at Creating or Continuing Connection is totally about your own Pleasure! Outside of practicing NVC or some other external Goal (like keeping a job or avoiding Injury or Death), you may have absolutely no Pleasure in Pursuing Connection with someone who calls you an Asshole. In which case, you back away, Carefully.

The Formula is a Neutral Observation about what occurred, followed by a Description of the Feeling it Triggered in us, followed by our Preference or Need to Feel or Be otherwise, and finished with a Request of the other person. Finishing with a Request keeps the Conversation Flowing, so you aren’t just making Proclamations. Here’s a super-simple introduction, with links to more detail…

If you click on the “Watch on =>YouTube” button, you’ll get a column of additional ‘Tubes, including several by Marshall himself. Like I say, it is very difficult to adhere to in practice. Here’s another ‘Tube on what it’s like when we’re Triggered…

NVC is especially useful in Cleaning Up our Self-Talk. For instance, replacing “You Idiot, there you go Doing That Again” with “Wow, I just Noticed How Self-Abusive I Can Be! Terrific! Now I can start to Change that Self-Sabotaging Habit!” There’s a Powerful article on this at https://www.theguardian.com/science/2021/jan/16/inner-voice-self-criticism-psychologist-ethan-kross-chatter-voice-head, about psychologist and neuroscientist Ethan Kross’s Emotion and Self Control Lab at Michigan University.

Dr. Kross’s book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It sounds like an excellent source for someone who gets stuck inside their head in what I used to call Helicopter Trips – eternal arguments between different points of view – before I Learned how to quell the rotors by moving from Heads-versus-Tails to the Coin between them.

In the 23 November Jupiter and New Moon chart, you may not have noticed that Damocles is still Lit Up. It Unxes (1 Sign or Pattern-Breaking) Jupiter (the Exaggerated Expansion of our Acceptance of Emotionality SuperPower), Squares (3 Signs or Challenges) the New Moon, and Trines (4 Signs or Dumb-Luck Blessings) the Rebirth into Unconditional Love SuperPower. Not only is it tightly entangled with the Jupiter-New Moon Meat of the week, it’s also tied up in a Deep Knot of other planets – Herakles (Zeus’s Hit Man for the Patriarchy), Vesta (Growth of Consciousness), Phaedra (Shame), and Gonggong (Intrusive Memories). What a mess!

The Stellium (Group of 3 or more planets) – the Deep Knot – is about Taking Ownership of Our Shame and Our Own Role in the Perpetuation of the Patriarchy. We may be dealing with Shame so Deep that we don’t even consider it to be Shame – we just don’t talk about it because we Fear it would Estrange everyone we know. Shame that isn’t even Ours, but was passed down to us from previous generations. It wasn’t that long ago that Men Believed that they Owned their Daughters and it was their Right and Privilege or even Obligation to “Teach” them about Sex. And not that long ago that Women had no Choice but to buy into that Regime if they wanted to continue Eating, and perhaps had no Choice because the Shame would have been Unbearable if it was out in the Open. Who among us are Immune from those sorts of Ancestors? Would we even Know?

We don’t have to Open Up to others about our Fears around these kinds of Shame, but it will be Powerful to Acknowledge this kind of Shame to ourself, and Accept Ownership of it – Very Carefully, as we have to be meticulous about Avoiding Blame, especially Self-Blame. This Energy is embedded in the very Core of Western European Colonialism and its cousin White Supremacy. We’re obviously already Feeling the next astroevent after Jupiter-New Moon – a Station of Nessus (Emphasis on Abuse and Privilege) at 3:01 am PST (GMT 11:01 am, IST 4:31 pm, AEDT Qld 9:01 pm) 27 November.

We aren’t going back to the Painful days of 2015-2017, when Nessus and Gonggong were traveling together in early Pisces, both Out of Bounds, Lighting Up everyone who was already Aware of their own childhood Abuse and Opening many others to theirs, in very Emotional (Pisces) circumstances. In the Jupiter-New Moon chart, Nessus has moved nine Degrees beyond Gonggong, far enough that our November adventures aren’t about Abuse per se, but about the Shame around it. The Degree Symbol for the Initiation of the new Nessus-Gonggong Cycle on 19 May 2015 in 4 Pisces was Total Chaos Of Time, Space, Emotion, Direction, Boundaries, Lifetimes, etc etc, with the Jewel in the Heart of Lotus Not Easy to Find, Requiring Union with the Soul.

Crazy-Making, in other words. This is a Journey we’re Stuck with for at least another century. Both planets have very elongated orbits, so Cycle times are not consistent. The previous Cycle was 150 years, but our estimates of their orbits from current knowledge runs only to 2100. Those of us who Remember those days in 2015-2017, are very Grateful that Reality has Settled Down quite a bit since then, even as Chaotic as it currently is. We’ve had a lot of on- and off-planet Allies helping us Seek the Jewel. Ajoite, a hydrated Potassium-Sodium-Copper-Aluminum Mica, often occurring as a subtle Aqua tint in Quartz Crystals, is one of those Allies that Mother Earth has given us, an Ally that’s Reputed to Power our Resurrection. Aho! – So Be It!…

Whack-A-Mole or Three

Youalls probably remember that the Moon went Out of Bounds today, 13 June 2022, at 7am PDT. That was 3pm BST in London and Midnight AEST in Melbourne. It’s Out of Bounds in the Southern Hemisphere, so it’s probably raising more havoc there – could even feel like Friday the 13th falls on Monday this week, as Pogo used to say. “Moon OOB” makes us all more antsy, more Emotional, more Reactive. The Spiritual Purpose of Moon OOB is to remind us to Stay with the Sensations Underneath our Emotions rather than getting Lost in the Thoughts that we Pile On Top of them, because you can be sure that It Will Hurt when that Pile Topples Over on you. The Moon stays OOB till 1:33 am PDT on Friday the 17th, the other Friday.

We’re barreling down the road towards our next big “Station” event (when a planet Stands Still in the Sky and its astrological Energy gets Amplified), at 3:50 am PDT 16 June, when Abuse and Privilege is Lit Up Brightly.¹ Abuse and Privilege may not sound Bright, but when it’s Lit Up enough that you Notice it, and maybe be in a position to Safely Shift the Energy back toward Equality, that’s a Bright Day. The emphasis is on Safety there, because intervening in Abuse and Privilege can be dangerous. It can even get you Dead in some places. Not that you shouldn’t Take a Risk, but make sure you Measure it carefully to make sure you’re unlikely to be just Wasting your Time and Energy – or your Life. Actual Martyrs are quite rare.

The primary subsidiary theme is Expansion of Consciousness, and this sub-theme is Illuminated until 5:22 am PDT 15 June and beyond – 1:22 pm BST in Brighton and 10:22 pm AEST in Sydney.² So we’ll be much more likely to be Noticing Abuse and Privilege this week. If we can Shift the Energy, More Power to us, especially if we can do it and Stay Safe, and especially if we’re about to be the Perp! Never hesitate to Back Up and if necessary Apologize, rather than just letting your untoward Habits keep running because it’s Easier.

And I just Noticed that there’s a second Station on 17 June, which means that it’ll be Lit Up along with the Abuse and Privilege Energy, and unfortunately this is Intrusive Memories Energy, which Complements Abuse Energy all too well.³ So our Abuse Memories may be Lit Up more, and harder to dismiss. Our Intrusive Memories are likely to feature Our Stories About our Feelings more than they’re likely to be Memories of the Feelings themselves. If you can get past the Stories, which are just more Thoughts, and get down to the Physical Sensations that hide under the Feelings, and somehow find a way to be Loving and Gentle with yourself while you’re Feeling them, that’s Success.

Our Intrusive Abuse Memories are probably going to feel like Shit, so we’ve got every Incentive to shy away from them, but remember that It Was You who Felt them, and you’ll be Abandoning yourself Again if you do bolt. Once you Fight your way through the musty old Stories and get down to the actual Physical Sensations you Experienced, and if you can be Loving and Gentle with yourself and with those Sensations in your Body, you’ll Recover Very Important Parts of your True Self that have been MIA for a a long time. There’s a good chance those will be the very Parts that will Help you fill in the gaps in the things you’ve been having a difficult time Manifesting, though you never would have guessed that beforehand.

Which is timely because early next week our Manifestation is Brightly Illuminated! ⁴

• ¹ Dwarf planet Nessus Stationary, in 17 Pisces (Innocent Awe).
• ² Dwarf planet Nessus Initiates a New Cycle with asteroid Juno, in 17 Pisces.
• ³ Dwarf planet Gonggong Stationary 2:01 pm PDT 17 June, in 6 Pisces (Valuable and Irreplaceable Karmic Frequencies that Are Out of Place in the Current Life), home of the Fixed Star Deneb Adige (The Mystical Birthing of New Forms). Once again we have a Degree, 6 Pisces, and a planet, Gonggong, which have strikingly similar Interpretations but which have only a temporary astrological connection, as the planet will move to another Degree soon. It’s as if the symbols for these Degrees were crafted just for these moments. The event is 10:01 pm BST 17 June in Liverpool, and 7:01 am AEST 18 June in Toowoomba.
• ⁴ Dwarf planet Makemake (Manifestation) Stationary 2:36 am PDT 21 June in 7 Libra (Front-Row Enthusiasm). That’s 10:36 am BST in Manchester, and 7:36 pm AEST in Hobart.
• p.s. We’ve added additional discussion about asteroid Icarus at the bottom of the previous post.