Fate and Choice

A video from last week’s Sedna Station…

Meanwhile, these poor folks keep Looking For Us in all the wrong places.  I Wonder if they’ll ever wake up…

https://www.universetoday.com/137008/breakthrough-detects-repeating-fast-radio-bursts-coming-distant-galaxy/

But what we really want to write about today is Thursday’s Station of asteroid Moira (Fate and Choice)…

By “coincidence” a reader wrote last week to inquire about their Relationship, and it turned out that they were in the middle of their Moira Returns – both of them!  A “Return” is when a planet returns to the same Sign and Degree it was in when you were born – a Birthday is just a “Solar Return.”  It’s basically a Reboot with regards to the influence of the Returning planet, in the case of Moira an Open Door to replace Ancient Habits with Conscious Choice.  When any planet Stations during a Return, we know we’re up for important Life Lessons.

Moira takes 4 years, six months, 7 days, and 8 hours (4.52 years) to complete the Zodiacal loop, so if you’re born any multiple of that from another person, you’re going to have your Moiras (Moirai in Greek) in the same place – that is, your Fate in the same ball game.  Think about that with regard to difficult siblings, cousins, parents, relatives, teachers, coaches, bosses, employees, subcontractors, clients, colleagues, teammates, neighbors, arresting officers, litigants, bounty hunters, wascally wabbits, or Antichrists in your Life. 

You can calculate the position of each person’s Moira by entering their birth date at http://www.true-node.com/eph1/?inputNumber=moira&day=1&month=9&year=2017&time=00%3A00%3A00&zone=GMT+0&interval_num=1&interval=day&lines=10&.submit=Get+Ephemeris&calendar=Gregorian&zodiac=Tropical&origin=Geocentric&lighttime=Apparent&clock=Universal+Time&zodsec=D%B0M&longitude=on .

It could make a Relationship (or a relationship) even more Confusing if one person’s Moira Opposed the other’s.  Remember though that Confusion is the first sign of Growth.

And an alliance or association would probably be even less Present-Moment, and hence even harder to understand, if the members’ Moirai Square one another (3 Signs apart in the same or adjacent Degrees).  You’ll be wondering what planet they’re from!

We have to say that a Relationship between two people with their Moirai in the same place, would be a “Fated” Relationship.  “Preplanned” would be a synonym in some Belief Sets, as would “Addictive” in others.  Very few of us are born in full Consciousness, and only Consciousness allows us to step out of Fate, step out of our Karma, and step into Choice.  So it’s going to take some time for most of us to “wake up” enough to be able to Choose whether or not a “Fated” Relationship is What We Want (if we have a Choice). 

With a Moira Return every 4½ years, we get to Reboot our “Choice of Fate (or not)” fairly frequently.

A “Fated” Relationship doesn’t at all have to be a “bad” one.  In fact, in most cases it would be a strong incentive for us to get Conscious, and if Consciousness is part of our Mission in the Lifetime, thinking of it as “Preplanned” is probably apt, if metaphorical.  If our “Fated” Relationships are Comfortable, we probably wouldn’t think twice about them; we’d just think that’s the way Relationships are supposed to be,, though we’d both probably have to be pretty Masterful at Self-Love.  Like those folks you know who met their Soulmates in high school and lived Happily Ever After.

If there were otherwise many Dischordant elements between our charts, we’d probably spend a lot of time Wondering why we’re attracted to someone so different from ourself.  Of course the answer would be So We Can Get Conscious, but they don’t usually teach that in school.

Our reader had their Exact Moira Return earlier in August; their partner won’t have theirs until next year.  Even though their natal Moirai are only a few Degrees apart, Moira’s Retrograde period intervenes.  Moira backs up from 10 Taurus to 26 Aries, a Degree Zone that has to do with finishing and critiquing the Design of a new Project, and building it out to the point where it’s recognizable for what it will eventually become.  Aries Projects are Compulsive, Impulsive, and Spiritually Motivated, so the intellect is flying blind – we know there’s a Plan and that it’s important, we just don’t know what the Plan is yet. 

We’ve come through the 26-Aries-to-10-Taurus Degree Zone once, now we’ll back over it and reconsider everything until mid-December, then make a second pass until early next March.  By then, whatever we’re working on should look pretty good.  We may even be able to guess what it’s about, though we’ll probably be wrong.  It’s better to leave Arian Projects as Mysteries, so we don’t screw them up with our Expectations and misguided Control issues.

In our reader’s case, at their Moira Return in mid-August they entered into a new phase in their progression toward Full Consciousness.  Now their new phase is on hold until December, while they revise their Approach to Life and their Personal history in light of what they’ve Realized.  Remember, Consciousness is not a process of Discovery, it’s one of Differentiation.  When we Become Conscious of something, it’s not new, it’s been their all along, we just haven’t Differentiated it from the background.

The most difficult part of any Relationship is Boundaries.  Putting it mildly, as if we’re Neutral in any Relationship, “Was that you that offended me, or am I being over-sensitive?” or “Am I rude and insulting, or is that you over-reacting?”  And the Bullying version, “I was just joking.”  In the case of interrelated Moirai, even more than usual, it would more often be “You just Triggered my Held Emotions, thank you very much,” or in the vernacular, “You Motherf…!”  As if anyone is Neutral when their Held Emotions are Lit.

Our reader also happens to have a Life Mission of Exploring Boundaries (asteroid Pallas Square to their Nodes), so they’ve “Chosen” (on the Soul level) a very serious Challenge for themselves.  As the Findhorn Transformation Game says, “The hardest jobs are only given to the best people.”  Their best bet in such a situation is probably to Dedicate their Life to Neutrality.  Gay Hendricks once spoke of a client of his who would reply to any Challenge, no matter how confrontative, “I Wonder how I might put that to good use.”

The prerequisite for Neutrality in difficult situations is Staying in the Present Moment.  Not at all Easy when our Held Emotions are coming up, but actually essential for any of us, if we hope to Liberate ourself from our Self-Sabotaging Archetypes.  Staying in the Present Moment means Attending to what’s going on at the moment in our Physical Vehicle.  Trading “You Motherf…!” for “Wow, do I ever feel strong Anger arising from my Belly!” or “Geez, my body temperature just rose ten Degrees!”  “I Wonder what would happen if I took a Deep Breath, or did Kegels.”  “I have to go to the bathroom; I’ll get back to you on this later.”

Sedna Teaches us that Anger and Fear are close cousins; Anger and Fear probably have their Moirai Square to one another.  If Anger is Fight, Fear is Freeze.  Flight is probably more often a reasonable Conscious or Unconscious Choice, as Anger is not your best friend when you Fight, and Freezing is a bad choice when staring at truck headlights.  If our aim is to Embrace Consciousness, then both Anger and Fear are prime Portals into What’s Asking To Be Examined.  Of course, Safety First, so when at all possible we want to be in a 100% Supportive environment when we Examine either Anger or Fear. 

If our environment isn’t 100% Supportive, we need a Safe exit, so we can Engage briefly, then Withdraw without penalty while we bring ourself back to the Present Moment as much as we can.  Tapping can play that role to some extent; Energy follows Attention, so we can productively Imagine that we’re Tapping in circumstances where physical Tapping would be inconvenient.  Another useful tool is our Mirror.

In any Difficult, Confusing, or Ill-Defined-Boundary situation, we can Imagine holding up a wardrobe Mirror between us and our protagonist, with the Mirror side facing them.  We can do this while they’re present and we’re Engaged with them, or while they’re absent, whenever we’re trying to iron out “who did what to whom when.”  Often we may need to expand the Mirror; sometimes we need a 360-degree dome around us, and sometimes we need to practice holding that Mirror long enough that we develop new Habits of Self-Protection.

Places where we have weak Boundaries are not accidents.  Someone Programmed us that way, and it’s Energetic equivalent is a hole in our Aura, often in the back of the Heart.  Not that we need to Blame them for Programming us, beyond being Honest with ourself about our Anger about it.  Eventually we’ll discover that we (Soul-we) actually Asked them to Program us, so we could Learn how to Recover from it and henceforth never again surrender Unconsciously to Manipulation.

When using our Mirror, the important thing is to watch what happens in the Present Moment.  Do we feel Safer or less Agitated?  That’s the primary objective.  Does their Attitude change?  That’s secondary, but still important; we have to Accept that we can Change no one except ourself.  But when we Change, the World Changes, because Real Life is not Dual, it’s Unitary and Multifarious. 

Ego Boundaries, while critically important to our Survival, are just a house of cards.  The Soul survives a million Egos, so Survival is really just an Ego thing anyway, but Exploring these Edges is precisely how we Expand our Consciousness.  So the Ego is in no sense trivial, even if its Illusory!

So if our protagonist’s Attitude changes, that’s evidence that our Mirror is working.

Learning how to Manifest a Safe Space for the Ego is an important part of Creating Peace.  How can we Tolerate anyone who is Different from us if we don’t have a Safe Space for our own Ego, our own Self-Protection?  While we appropriately disparage and disdain the 1% and the Antichrist and Extremists of all stripes, one thing they Demonstrate for us very well, is that they have a Safe Space for their Egos.  We can Imitate that without Selling Out, because we aren’t Sociopaths.

Full Moon Jupiter 3

The 9 June Jupiter Station Lit Up 11-17 Degrees of the Cardinal Signs.  Let’s take another reader at random and see how having these Degrees Triggered might impact them… 

Well, this will reveal the reader’s age, so we can’t say anything else about their chart without giving out too much information, but for our reader, the Jupiter Station Lights Up a “Chariklo Return” that they’re in the middle of.

Every half-century or so, Chariklo Returns to the same place, and for us Hupers, this marks a major Crisis of Self-Confidence.  Chariklo symbolizes our Charm and Beauty, two characteristics that Hupers are particularly Fond of becoming Addicted to.  This Fondness from Other easily translates into Confidence for us – if folks tend to fawn over me, why wouldn’t I (ceteris paribus) develop Self-Confidence!  A patina of Privilege can thus constellate around Chariklo, if one’s Ego Attaches to the deference that others might grant.  And, y’know, Ego and Attachment are pretty much synonyms, so that wouldn’t be unusual.

Now, when a planet in the Sky crosses one of our natal planets, then turns Retrograde and crosses again, we refer to the first crossing as a “Can-Opener,” because it may open a “Can of Worms” for us.  Since the most likely planets to do this are the outer, slower, planets, we may not have much Experience with the Energy in their crossings.  We’ve all Lived our whole Lives with Chariklo, but we Experience Chariklo most Intensely only every twelve and a half years, when it Squares, Opposes, then Squares itself again, then finally Returns to its natal position.  So unless we Live past a hundred, we’ll only Experience a Chariklo Return once in a Lifetime.

In other words, we’re all rookies at outer-planet Returns.  So when Chariklo Returns, we can expect some fairly intense Self-Questioning about whether or not we Deserve the Respect we Receive.  And it wouldn’t be surprising to find Respect withdrawn from us, as Chariklo noses its way into Consciousness.  The fastest way to Trigger Gratitude is to have something withdrawn when we’ve taken it for granted.  A Full Moon already tends in the direction of greater Consciousness anyway, as Full Moons are all about Illumination.  And just now, at this Full Moon, Chariklo is Dancing with Juno, which is about the Edges of our Consciousness as well.  And all while Jupiter is blowing everything out of proportion.

So this was probably a pretty Big Full Moon for our reader.  Fortunately, they had their Chariklo-Return Can-Opener in January.  Chariklo has since turned Retrograde, so this is Chariklo’s second pass.  We call the second, Retrograde crossing an “Exposition,” because it Exposes more about what likely caught us off guard at the Can-Opener.  At the Exposition we’re no longer raw rookies; we’ve seen this Energy before, and recently.  Plus, it’s Retrograde, so the whole Process, however it unfolds, will unfold more slowly, giving us time to Learn about it, to become Conscious of how it works.  Our reader’s Chariklo Return Exposition will be Exact soon.  

Later in the year, Chariklo will turn Direct again, and cross a third time; we refer to this third crossing as the “Confidence-Builder,” because by then we will have become a Master at working with the Energy.  By the dawn of 2018 our reader will probably understand that we just have to Create Confidence out of thin air.  Not over-Confidence; we’re always better off tempering Confidence with Honest Appraisal of our Skills.  We want to Stretch, but as we Stretch we don’t need to mislead.  If we’ve done something before, we can be pretty sure we can do it again.  If it’s similar to something we’ve done before, we can give odds of our success.  If we’ve never done it before, then we might be better off being Honest about our Eagerness to Try. 

All of which is far superior to Giving Up before we start – when Chariklo Acts Out and disrupts our normal Confidence Patterns, we could easily do just that.  The Mythological Chariklo was Chiron’s wife, so She was no stranger to Despair, and Testing our Mettle against Despair is well within Her bag of tricks as she Educates us about Confidence.  Which gives us a knife-edge to walk, between “I Can’t” and “I Will.”  We’ll always Learn more by erring on the side of “I Will” – within Limits.  If we Stretch too far we can get “burned” and Create new Limiting Beliefs in the process.

Cavansite (Calcium Vanadate), the bright blue-green Crystal Cluster, Connects us with our Multidimensional Self and with Skillsets we developed in other Lifetimes, boosting our Self-Confidence.  The matrix is Stilbite, which also loosens our Attachment to our Current-Life Ego.