Ending Codependence?

The chart of the 9 July 2021 New Moon (6:16 pm PDT, in 19 Cancer) is another of those rare “simple” – or Intensely Focused charts…

The 8 July Station of asteroid Sappho (Self-Love), and the several other July Stations that occur in the same Degree Zone, depict a very Strong Rebirth (dwarf planet Haumea), as we upgrade our Self-Love by several to many notches. The 9 July New Moon confirms it, as the New Moon Challenges (Squares) asteroid Klotho (New Beginnings), named for the Greek Goddess who was in charge of “cutting the Cloth” on which a whole new batch of Karmic Tapestry will be woven. Karma, recall, can be “Good” or “Bad,” relative to our Perspective, so a whole new batch of it can be glorious, especially when it involves a big Upgrade in our Self-Love.

In fact, Karma is Neutral. It’s all just Experience, and Experience is what we came here for. If the Habit Patterns we bring with us into the Lifetime are agreeable to the Ego, we consider it “Good” Karma. If it Challenges the Ego and our Consciousness to Grow, then we consider it to be “Bad” Karma. It’s the Ego that decides whether Karma is “Good” or “Bad” (or even “Earned” or “Curricular”), depending on what the Ego is ready to tackle.

In this particular case, it’s our Unhealed Codependence (dwarf planet Hylonome) that can make the next few weeks (the usual timescale for the influence of a New Moon) feel like “Bad” Karma (Klotho T-Squared by the Opposition from Hylonome to the New Moon). And conversely, it’s our Self-Sovereignty (Hylonome) that will make the Karma seem Helpful.

In such a spacious chart, every little thing takes on huge proportions. The only Bridge across the T-Square (or “shortcut across the Challenge”) is a Quincunx Bridge (the green lines). A Quincunx connects planets that are five Signs apart, and it’s meaning is Curiosity. Not the kind of Curiosity that take us to the encyclopedia or our local Sage, but the kind that drops our jaw and puts us in Awe. We could even say Awesome Curiosity. Curiosity, like Confusion, is an Authentic Emotion. Rather than seeking Cause or Blame, Authentic Emotions need to just be Felt and Experienced. Curiosity and Confusion are Powerful Emotions because they lead us beyond the Ego into uncharted territory.

Which is precisely why we want to Explain them, so we don’t get lost in the Wilderness, which would be Scary. But the Wilderness is the only place where we can Expand our Consciousness and Grow as a Huper. So if we Aspire to Enlightenment or 5D, we need to retrain any tendency we have to want to Explain everything. It Is What It Is, and it Asks to be Appreciated for being exactly that, no more and no less. Feel it in your Body and then Let It Go. Since undefined Curiosity and Confusion Frighten the Ego, we can retrain ourself using the same techniques we use for Fear – Fear (or Confusion/Curiosity) plus Breathing equals Excitement, Fear plus Grounding equals Clarity, Fear plus Kegels equals Power. And especially, Changing the Subject when the Mind wants to intercede, squeezing your New Experience into your old Birdcage, and Canceling your Opportunity for Growth.

We’re thinking, this is only a New Moon, it only lasts a couple of weeks, it’s not such a Big Deal, but in the context of the Sappho Station’s Suzerainty over the month of July, it is obviously an adjunct of our Self-Love Adventures – Self-Love and Codependence can be contentious companions.

And, we need to look at it this way… The 13 July Conjunction of Venus and Mars, which begins a New 2½-year Cycle in the all-important Relationship between our Inner Male and our Inner Female, in the process Reconfiguring all of our external Relationships with other people. When all is Right with the World, our Inner Female holds our Values, and instructs our Inner (and Outer) Male on how to Work toward Building a Life based on them. When we aren’t in touch with our Inner Female, we constantly shoot ourselves in the feet, because we don’t know our own Values. When we aren’t in touch with our Inner Male, we don’t get much done. Fulfillment is an estranged Emotion in both situations.

Well, if we take this 9 July New Moon chart, and erase the Moon, we have exactly the chart for the 13 July Initiation of the New 2½-year Venus-Mars Cycle. So we’re stuck with this chart for a lot longer than two weeks, and every other person we meet will be reminding us of this, and every misalignment between our Values and our Actions will be rubbing our face in this chart. Bottom Line, every Endeavor we attempt to Begin (Klotho) will be screwed up by our Codependence (Hylonome), and every Endeavor will end up being a Renegotiation of our Self-Sovereignty. If you’ve ever been in Relationship with someone who really doesn’t understand Who You Are, or with someone whom you don’t really Understand, and/or a Relationship overflowing with Brutal Arguments, you well know what I’m talking about.

To embellish this, there are two other Significant Elements in these two charts…

First, Venus-Mars is joined by asteroid Atropos (Karma that Expires on its own). So your Relationships will be Entirely New, and none of your old Relationship Habits will work. You won’t know that until you try to exercise them and they fail utterly. When you try to Show Off, you’ll end up with a lot of Egg on your face – which is actually Great for the Ego, because it’ll be reminded frequently of its proper role as your Survival Manager, rather than the role it’s used to playing as your Marketing VP. Get used to it.

And second, this Initiation is in Leo. Leo is the Culmination of the Individual. This means that the only way you’ll get any Relationship to function well during this Cycle, is to Fully and Completely Respect one another’s Self-Sovereignty. If you’re a Judgmental-type person, and especially if you Believe you know the difference between Right and Wrong for others, your Relationships will head straight for the Toilet. Here’s a two-minute tutorial in what will work (called “SP” in the quote) and what won’t (“SJ”), from David Keirsey’s Please Understand Me II (pp.18-19)…

• “SPs probe around their immediate surroundings in order to detect and exploit any favorable options that come within reach. Having the freedom to act on the spur of the moment, whenever or wherever an opportunity arises, is very important to SPs. No chance is to be blown, no opening missed, no angle overlooked – whoever or whatever might turn out to be exciting, pleasurable, or useful is checked out for advantage.”
• “SJs, like SPs, observe their close surrounding with a keen eye, but for an entirely different reason, namely that of scheduling their own and others’ activities so that needs are met and conduct is kept within bounds. Thus for SJs, everything should be in its proper place, everybody should be doing what they’re supposed to, everybody should be getting their just desserts, every action should be closely supervised, all products thoroughly inspected, all legitimate needs promptly met, all approved ventures carefully insured.”

Of course, exceptions are many. A Guilt-laden or Shame-laden “SP” who hasn’t Healed their Codependence will be a perfect match for an SJ. Two “SJs” can get along great if their Values mostly overlap – or if they follow the same external Authority and can agree on most interpretations. I don’t think it’s Coincidence that it’s easy to profile the Patriarchy and certain Political party adherents into the “SJ” category. We might expect “SJs” to display Dysfunction or cluster into tight cults over the next 2½ years.

In addition to the chart of the Initiation of a New Cycle, the other major way to guess what the Cycle might be about, is the “Sabian Symbol” (a Channeled reading for each of the 360 Degrees of the Zodiac) of the Degree of the Initiation. The Sabian Symbol for 20 Leo is “Zuni Indians perform a ritual to the Sun: A return to the glorification of natural energies.” Since Ritual (the Second Harmonic) is the Realm of the SJs, this will Create an interesting Dynamic, as the SPs and the SJs need one another.