Poor-Sweethearting

We often talk about the Chironean process, whereby we take something that we Reject – often accompanied by Pain or even Severe Pain – Despair for instance, and convert it to Miracles.  When we’re Feeling great Pain such as Despair, it’s very difficult to Detach our Identity from the Pain.  But Pain is always much more manageable when we Feel it rather than Being it.

We often abbreviate this process by calling it “Poor-Sweethearting,” because the easiest way to put it to work is to say to ourself, “You Poor Sweetheart, you’re Feeling Despair, aren’t you.”  That simple statement is Magic, because by saying it we’re stepping out of our previous Identity – Despair – and stepping into a New Identity, as a Compassionate Witness.

Eugene Gendlin, the creator of the Focusing process, wrote his PhD dissertation on what actually worked in psychotherapy.  He observed a large number of counseling sessions that used different methods and theories of Healing, and concluded that it didn’t much matter what method or theory was used; counselors that were successful were those that Empathized with their clients.  Those that didn’t Empathize didn’t have successful outcomes with their clients.

Which is exactly what we’re doing by Poor-Sweethearting, Empathizing with ourself.  Tapping uses the same principle, when we begin the process with “Even though I’m in Despair, I Deeply and Completely Love and Accept Myself. 

When we Poor-Sweetheart ourself, we shift our Perspective.  We’re no longer looking out from the Perspective of Despair, we’re now looking in from the Perspective of Compassion.  Einstein supposedly said that you can’t solve a problem using the same thinking that postulated it, and that’s exactly what we’re doing, were changing our thinking, our Perspective.  And Poor-Sweethearting ourself is literally all we need to do because the next step is to Change the Subject, like we do when we’re PIAVAing.

If we don’t Change the Subject, our old Perspective takes back over, and we’re stuck with the same unfunctional Perspective on the same problem.  So we Poor-Sweetheart ourself, and then we just go about our business.  We may not even notice it when Miracles happen.  Miracles are simply things which are beyond the range of Possibility from our old Perspective.  Once we Change Perspectives, the range of Possibilities Changes, and Voila, Miracles.

Alternatively, before we Change the Subject we can sit with ourself for a little while after we Poor-Sweetheart ourself, because often we can hear or Feel a Child’s small voice answering us from within.  “You Poor Sweetheart, you’re really Feeling Helpless, aren’t you.”  “Well, there’s nothing I can do!” she might reply.  If we can develop a dialog with these Inner Kids of ours, that’s a goldmine.  They have untold information about how our Limiting Beliefs formed in our current Lifetime, and that information can help Liberate us from Self-Sabotage.

I certainly don’t claim to have invented Self-Empathy, but the Poor-Sweethearting process came to me after I had refused induction to Vietnam, and I was waiting for the FBI to come and arrest me.  I spent a lot of time working over many different possible actions and possible consequences in my head in those days, and Despair was never far away.  Of course it was not my first Experience with Despair, but it was a Powerful and Extended Recurrence.

I was impressed today when Daniel Scranton Channeled a more-Neutral version of the same process…

 http://danielscranton.com/the-power-of-acceptance-%e2%88%9ethe-9th-dimensional-arcturian-council/

“Greetings.  We are the Arcturian Council.  We are pleased to connect with all of you.

“We have always been willing to accept where you are in any moment, as a collective and as individuals.  It has been this acceptance that has allowed us to see beyond where you were in the moment, and this has given us the insights that we knew you would be able to receive at some point.

“Your willingness to accept your current circumstances in your lives will enable you to shift.  Acceptance will enable you to loosen your grip on your current set of circumstances, and that will assist you in creating something new, something more to your liking, something that you will more readily be able to enjoy.  The process of acceptance is like anything else. It doesn’t happen all at once.  It happens in stages or steps.

“First, you must be aware of something, and then you must allow yourself the reaction to it.  In other words, you’re still going to feel your emotions, even though your goal will be to find a place of acceptance within you.  After you have processed whatever emotions come up within you regarding your circumstances, you can open yourself up to the possibility that what you are experiencing in the present moment is actually serving you in some way.

“And once you come to that conclusion, it becomes easier for you then to accept the circumstances you are in.  And when you see how something serves you, you also see how it is temporary and anything that you need to do in order to move past it on the physical level.  The change becomes clearer to you, and the steps that are required to make those changes become evident.

“Most importantly, when you are in acceptance, you are not in a state of judgment.  You are not criticizing yourself for being where you are, and you are not in resistance.  Therefore, you enable yourselves to find some comfort in your current situation, some relief, and you give yourselves the necessary ingredients to catapult you into a better future.

“We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.”

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