Snagged on a poignant Vignette this morning, I caught myself beginning to indulge my Pain. So I Shed – which feels somewhere between Opening my Angelwings and pouring a quart of (dry) water over my head – and in the process Realized that Stephen Levine’s writings would be particularly Powerful for us in this phase of our Transition. My copies of his books aren’t handy, but I believe it was Healing into Life and Death or Guided Meditations, Explorations, and Healings that I was thinking of, probably the latter, the one full of incredibly Heart-Opening Guided Meditations.
There is a big difference between Forgiveness and Boundaries. Forgiveness is a Discovery, not a Decision – you wake up one day and Discover that you aren’t Angry at them any more. Which doesn’t mean you can’t Invite Forgiveness into your Life, as Stephen often does in these Meditations. This is a Memory, not a quote…
“Whatever you may have done to Hurt me, Consciously or otherwise, I Forgive you.
“Whatever I may have done to Hurt you, Consciously or otherwise, I Ask that you Forgive me.”
I don’t think Stephen would mind if I misquoted him or borrowed his Work; he had an Ego as Inclusive as the Galaxy. We’re approaching the first anniversary of his Transition out of his Incarnation…
Hurt is complicated – it can be a Commission or an Omission, or something else entirely, often “just” a Misalignment, where you’re trying to relate but you’re on different tracks. But where there’s Pain, Inviting Forgiveness is useful. This one is a quote, from http://levinetalks.com/Writings/single_post/ego-death …
“In the course of breaking the narrow confines of the self-image, a whole new world becomes available when you find out who you aren’t, including your suffering, which wipes out most of your precious/painful identity. This can be a little disconcerting.
“Just before my face fell off, I looked back at my life as though it were my own. I was possessed by memory.
“But as I passed behind the well-woven tapestry of appearances, history was undone. The knots and snags that hold the illusion in place unraveling.
“The suffering defended so long dissolved like the Cheshire smile as a karmic wind caught a loose end and pulled . . .
“In transit beyond the known.”
And if you haven’t yet, and you can spare a week where you can’t do anything else but read (because it’s so compelling), Stephen’s Who Dies? is required reading for anyone. Actually there’s a good chance you’ll find it to be The Most Important Thing you’ve ever done, so “sparing” a week might not be the right verb.
Back in the 1980s, when Pluto was in Scorpio (“The Way Out is Through”), before it crossed Sagittarius (“The Way Out is Letting Go”) into Capricorn (“Just Fix It Already”), a wonderful body of Literature was produced by the
“Recovery Movement.” One of my favorites was Susan Forward’s Toxic Parents. Nothing against parents, and mine were by no means the worst, but this book just does a great job of differentiating Forgiveness from Boundaries, and we need to understand this.