Just in case you (or someone you know, like your kids) haven’t noticed, it’s important to realize that the whole fracas about Trump’s inappropriate Sexual advances isn’t about Sex, it’s about Power. The best “textbook” I’ve ever read about Power is Starhawk’s Truth or Dare: Encounters with Power, Authority, and Mystery. She sharply distinguishes Power-Over, which is Trump’s Patriarchic style (on most issues, so far as I’ve seen, not just Sexual issues), from Power-With, which is the Yang-Feminine replacement, which trades Collaboration and Equality for the Patriarchy’s Competition and Hierarchy.
Starhawk doesn’t specifically address what we might call Power-Under – the Learned (and probably also Evolutionary) Skill at “sucking up” to the perpetrators of Power-Over. In Western Culture, at least in America, most of us have at least some Skill at that, or we’d be long since dead or in jail or both, or racing our Thunderbird off the edge of the Grand Canyon.
Power-Under is still a necessary Skill, when used Consciously. It becomes self-abuse when used Unconsciously or Compulsively. We can easily see how raising these issues into Consciousness is part of the Nessus-OR10 Conjunction around Irruption of Unconscious Contents dealing with Abuse and Privilege.
Nessus-OR10 is the focus of a long-lived Finger of God (Pay Attention!) from Varuna (the Life Force) and Makemake (Manifestation). Venus (Values) makes a Waning Square (Let Go!) to Nessus-OR10 all week, and the Moon (Authenticity, Instinct) completes the T-Square today, 11:30am PDT, exactly as I write this (funny “coincidence,” eh?), plus or minus six hours for impact at three Degrees of Sensitivity.
Karma (Inertia, Archetypes) Opposes Nessus-OR10 at Halloween – discourage the Trump masks if you can. ‘Round about election day in the US, Nemesis (Consciousness of Self-Sabotage) makes a Waning Square (Let Go!) to Nessus-OR10. Our “Saving Grace” is a persistent Sextile (Grace if we take the first step) from Hylonome (Becoming Conscious of and Grieving the Loss of Identification with Archetypes).
In the Trump/Patriarchy case, while it is certainly Abuse to his victims, the Power issue is really about Privilege.
The best “textbook” I’ve ever read about Healing Habitual Power-Under is Ellen Bass and Laura Davis’s The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. There’s no way its wisdom is limited to women, however, and the authors’ Workbook specifically includes men. Leafing through it I can find a dozen quotations that would be perfectly apt, but they’d be pages long. Bear in mind that Sexual Abuse need not be personal; to find your own True Self you may need to Heal the scar tissue within you from the Abuse your Grandmother endured, and undoubtedly never shared with anyone (“If you tell anyone I will kill you”). As Native Americans say, we are Responsible to the Seven Generations Before us and to the Seven Generations After us.
After The Courage to Heal, the next step is Julie Henderson’s The Lover Within: Opening to Energy in Sexual Practice, which is only about Sexual Practice in the sense that Everything is really just sublimated Sex, because as Julie makes clear, Sex and the Life Force are the same Energy. The book is about Boundaries – monitoring your Auric Energy, Learning to modulate the Expansion (Jupiter) and Contraction (Saturn) – and Compression (Orcus?) of your Energy Field. She mentions Sex – my copy eludes me at the moment, but one particularly Powerful quote you would get if I could find it deals with how Adults react to the natural Sexual Energy of a Child – often Repressively, out of their own Repression.