More comments around Privilege…
“I’ve done so much mirroring over the last few years; I even carry a small mirror in my purse for those ‘special occasions’ and finger it discreetly when the need arises. I also have a mirror set up in the library that I can angle towards the direction of whichever person isn’t respecting my boundaries at any given moment.”
“Not sure I have the expertise to close holes in my aura on my own but will ask around about people who might be able to help with that.”
You ARE closing the holes in your Aura. Think about how many years it took the significant adults (and older siblings if any) in your childhood to get you programmed to be Vulnerable to their Needs and Whims – and how many Lifetimes before that. Self-Sovereignty isn’t a single Decision, it’s a Lifestyle, which impacts the Choices you make every moment. Slavery is still quite legal in many places on this Planet. Most of us may have more Lifetimes as Slaves and Masters than as Freepersons.
You may be able to find a Psychic Healer to help you, but the way you close the hole in your Aura is with Discernment (Noticing when Violation is occurring, at more and more subtle levels; Witnessing; and Empathy if or when there’s Time and Safety for it) and Persistence (making the Decision to Support your own Sovereignty and Doing it, over and over again until it’s second nature, like riding a bicycle). You might find that experience with a Psychic Healer just gives you (to your chagrin) more opportunity to Discern and Persist!
Absolutely! Developing the Ability to Respond rather than React. Responding from Choice, or from an Archetype (Pattern, Habit) that we’ve Chosen to Self-Install, rather than from an Archetype that someone else Programmed us to React from.
The ancient Command…
is an excellent one to use when someone threatens us with a curse. Feel bad about sending a curse back to the one who curses you? That’s exactly the Programmed Self-Abuse you can use as your unfailingly reliable signal that it’s time to Discern and Persist. When you get stuck on an Edge between Compassion and Sovereignty, recognize the Confusion – the first sign of Growth – and Surrender to a PIAVA.
When our own “negative” Programming threatens us with an untoward thought or Feeling…
“Cancel, Neutralize, Upgrade”
is a good mantra – Cancel the thought, Neutralize the Energy already manifested, and Upgrade the thinking unit.