Another reader speaks up…
“Yes, Bummers indeed… At least it’s getting easier…! And yes, there have been weird physical symptoms.
“A couple of questions for you:
“Any way you could give an example of ‘challenges to expand our values,’ perhaps from your personal experience or the experience of someone you’ve heard from? I sense it’s important and that something may have come into my awareness along these lines, but it escapes me.”
A few examples of Values that might require Expanding for some of us…
“One of the defining characteristics of the shaman is a close relationship with animal and bird companions that includes the ability to borrow their forms. These relationships are part of a broader connectedness with all nature – with the spirit of trees and plants, of stone and mountains – that flows from the awareness that everything is alive, everything is ensouled, everything is related.” — Robert Moss, Dreamgates, p. 72
Anyone being “victimized” by one of these violent Spring storms crossing the US? What Value do you place on your Relationship to the Weather, or to Climate? How Active are you in the campaign against Global Warming? How often do you commune with the Gods and Goddesses of Weather? Does that sound ridiculous to you?
I don’t know how the violence in Europe is being covered by the media there, but in the US, it’s all “How could those monsters do those things to us?” The US builds some 60-or-so percent of all the bombs and killing machines in the World. When we use those on the rest of the World, does the media ask “How could we be such monsters to do those things to those other people?”
” ‘It’s a difficult decision, the steady paycheck makes me feel secure and useful, and I expect it will be close to impossible to get health insurance because of my pre-existing condition. But I’m impatient to be doing those things that were important to me before my career pushed everything aside.’
“The outer journey for recognition became less and less important as I explored the inner terrain. My feminine voice became stronger as I developed the courage to let go of my reliance on linear mind. Then I was free to listen to dreams, images, and inner allies. These became my guides. When a woman reduces the emphasis on the outer heroic quest for self-definition, she is free to explore her images and her voice.” –Maureen Murdock, The Heroine’s Journey, p.10.
“Part of the calling of women as we move into the 21st century is to revive a spirituality of creativity that is not afraid of the strange beauty of the underwater world of the subconscious, and to help men out of the restricted and narrow world of provable and limited fact in which society has imprisoned them. My role as a feminist is not to compete with men in their world – that’s too easy, and ultimately unproductive. My job is to live fully as a woman, enjoying the whole of myself and my place in the universe.” –Madeleine L’Engle, “Shake the Universe,” Ms magazine, Summer 1987, pp.182-5, quoted in Murdock op cit p.11.
“Although ecological values and holistic ideas can be imagined and are being articulated now, actual implementation is uncommon because such values are at odds with the prevailing patriarchal pattern. Ownership of natural resources by this or that individual, corporation, or state, and exploitation of the natural world are automatic corollaries of the patriarchal world view, which is still the norm for us.” –Genia Haddon, Body Metaphors, p.109.
“This comes from the illusion that if others knew our hearts – who we truly are – they would not choose us. We must choose ourselves, and by that strength live our lives… In the future the word ‘healing’ … will not be related to this strange attachment we have to inertia, whereby we attempt to hold ourselves on one point lest we lose control and expand. Healing must go deeper. Healing will one day refer to the actual energetic process of transmutation, transformation, transcendence.” –Chris Griscom, Ecstasy Is a New Frequency, pp.76-7.
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I’d Do Anything for Love, but I Won’t Do That!
Our reader continues…
“Then when your reader quotes you with reference to taunts they have received, you write: ‘An excellent test of how your very subtle growth is progressing will be your sense of Being Violated. Certainly not physically, but if you encounter Insults, Pay Attention.’
“Again, wondering if you could expand upon this, as in, Pay Attention to What? I appear to have been ‘slighted’ a few times recently, in ways that make it hard for me to know whether the person really meant to offend, whether is was my imagination or just my own defensiveness and/or projection of my own insecurities about myself onto what was said to me about me by others. So are the ‘bad’ qualities they are pointing out in me clues as to my rejected inner genius as you describe?”
Absolutely! I recall in one of Gay Hendricks’s books he remarked that a participant in one of his workshops took every criticism he heard, and weighed it carefully to see if it was “useful” to him. It’s handy that your attackers were ambiguous, because it doesn’t have anything to do with them anyway, it’s all between your Ego and your Genius, or at least between your Ego and your Self-Doubt. You could actually take the dictionary, and run through all of the adjectives, to see which of them raise your hackles when paired with “I am.”
Aside from the fact that you should feel totally insulted to be called an adjective (I mean, how limiting! – you could at least be a verb, if you were going to limit your scope to conceiving of yourself as a part of speech), the greater your Resistance to any given adjective, the greater the likelihood that tracing that Resistance back to its origins (When was the first time that I can recall Resisting that appellation? What was going on? Why do you suppose I was in Resistance then? Of course I need to be Loving and Gentle with that poor fellow, maybe even Empathetic) will be useful, leading either to your Rejected Genius (Ixion), or to the Skills hidden beneath your Held Emotions (South Node), or at least to other Limiting Beliefs (Vesta).
Of course you can always run through a list of the adjectives associated with the Signs and Houses and Angles of your Ixion and South Node and Vesta, and even Orcus – one of the few times when supposedly “negative” attributes, or the “negative” side of “positive” attributes will be useful.
Anyplace where we try to constrain ourself to some languagable characteristic, we know we’re stuck in an Archetype. We are Infinite. Of course, we’re also all Petty – Both/And. But why dwell on our Pettiness, when we can dwell with our Infinitude. Definitely spend enough time with your Pettiness, in all its forms, to Let Go of the Emotional Baggage constellated around it. Fundamentalists, whether Religious or Scienterrific, want to Limit us to languagable Either/Or Wordings (not Beings) that don’t Frighten them. Remember that a foundational tenet of their Beliefs is that Direct Communion with the Goddesshead – let alone identification with Her – is verboten; if it doesn’t pass muster with their User’s Guide, it’s insanity, and quite possibly actionable, at a minimum medicable.
Those are dangerous people, you don’t want to hang out with them. But wait. If we eschew Self-Judgment, won’t we all be just clones of The Donald? Well, I think we’ve proven to ourselves that we’re capable of Self-Judgment, even capable of Self-Examination. And the bottom-line difference, capable of Compassion. And capable of Curiosity. It’s a good use for Curiosity – “I Wonder if I’m a poster child for that word that I have an unpleasant Reaction to?” If we then Change the Subject, that might be a good way to induce Time-Travel back to our original unpleasantness, perhaps even to the time that we swore an Oath (Orcus) that “I’ll never be like that!”
It’s a fantastic time to Take Full Responsibility (Pholus, Stationary 6am 26 March) to Make Decisions that Have Survival Value (Quaoar, Stationary 1pm 29 March), such as Decisions that Celebrate Love, especially Self-Love (Sappho, Stationary 5pm 29 March). I do believe that the denizens of this Planet are doomed until they figure out that they really need to Value above all the fact that “everything is alive, everything is ensouled, everything is related” (asteroid Hopi).