Many of us didn’t get education of this sort as kids – in fact, most kids still don’t. So we need to locate Discernment Skills on our own…
“Self-regulation can be taught to many kids who cycle between frantic activity and immobility. In addition to reading, writing, and arithmetic, all kids need to learn self-awareness, self-regulation, and communication as part of their core curriculum. Just as we teach history and geography, we need to teach children how their brains and bodies work. For adults and children alike, being in control of ourselves requires becoming familiar with our inner world and accurately identifying what scares, upsets, or delights us.
“Emotional intelligence starts with labeling your own feelings and attuning to the emotions of the people around you. We begin very simply: with mirrors. Looking into a mirror helps kids to be aware of what they look like when they are sad, angry, bored, or disappointed. Then we ask them, ‘How do you feel when you see a face like that?’ We teach them how their brains are built, what emotions are for and where they are registered in their bodies, and how they can communicate their feelings to the people around them. They learn that their facial muscles give clues about what they are feeling and then experiment with how their facial expressions affect other people.
“We also strengthen the brain’s watchtower by teaching them to recognize and name their physical sensations. For example, when their chest tightens, that probably means that they are nervous; their breathing becomes shallow and they feel uptight. What does anger feel like, and what can they do to change that sensation in their body? What happens if they take a deep breath or take tine out to jump rope or hit a punching bag? Does tapping acupressure points help? We try to provide children, teachers, and other care providers with a toolbox of ways to take charge of their emotional reactions.
“To promote reciprocity, we use other mirroring exercises, which are the foundation of safe interpersonal communication. Kids practice imitating one another’s facial expressions. They proceed to imitating gestures and sounds and then get up and move in sync. To play well, they have to pay attention to really seeing and hearing one another. Games like Simon Says lead to lots of sniggering and giggling – signs of safety and relaxation. When teenagers balk at these ‘stupid games,’ we nod understandingly and enlist their cooperation by asking them to demonstrate games to the little kids, who ‘need their help.’ “
–Bessel Van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, pp.354-5
The only Challenges in the Sky right now are made by planets that will be somewhere else tomorrow, so we have a nice quiet window here to nurse the wounds from Re-Experiencing our Trauma last month.
The order of the day is to be Loving and Gentle with ourselves. If you’re exhausted, small wonder; we’ve just finished a Psychic marathon. Heavy Emotions that linger from last month can most likely be Let Go without consequences; remember that with Saturn now in Sagittarius, The Most Important Thing is Letting Go and Moving On. Don’t “Release” them – you don’t want to “Re-lease” and sign up for another year’s lease on them. Words can be important. Let them Go instead. “Cancel, Neutralize, Upgade” them – Cancel the thoughts that would reinforce the negative Emotion, Neutralize the Vibrations they project, and Upgrade the sender (ie, us).
And remember that our Karma does not grasp us, we grasp our Karma. It’s Inertia, past Habits continuing on their own accord. You couldn’t even drive a car or pick your nose without the Power of Habituation, so don’t knock it. Just Dehabituate what no longer Serves you, including any Lingering Heavy Emotions. There are no planets transiting Scorpio right now, so there is no reason to dig deeper or hold tighter; at the moment, the Treasure is elsewhere.
Of course the key to Dehabituating is Noticing – Discernment, Witnessing. We can’t Change a Habit if we don’t see it. Virgo specializes in Discernment, and Jupiter (Expansion) is there Trining (Grace) Pluto (Compulsion), so the Angels will line up behind us when we Intend (or Ask or Affirm or Pray or Visualize or Command or any of the other extended PIAVA Magnetic-Creative techniques) to Change the way we Respond to Disturbances in the Force.
With Chiron moving out of its T-Square with Chaos and Pallas-Pholus-Ixion, the only Squares around today are Venus-Sedna and Sun-Pluto. Sun-Pluto will last a few more days, but we do that twice a year, so we aren’t rookies at it. We gauge the Difficulty of celestial Angles by their rarity; the more an Angle appears, the more Experience we have with it. Just now the Moon completes a T-Square with Sun and Pluto, but this also happens twice a year, and for only a few hours, so it’s an excellent time to focus that Pluto Purging Energy on anything we no longer need. The Sky is full of Oppositions, but without any Squares, those are just Dualities.
Remember too that it’s always Both/And, never Either/Or. Whenever you seem to be helicoptering over some Duality like heads or tails, move to the Coin. Do we cling to what little is left of our Franchise within The System as it fails, for instance (ie, job, money), or do we put our Attention into developing Alternatives (ie, growing food, developing real Community)? What’s the Coin? The Coin is Survival (if a different Coin pops out for you, go with that – it’s not Either/Or) and Sustenance. We move to Sustenance by Letting Go of anything we don’t Need. That’ll serve us in either Future.
The biggest Configuration facing us is a Mystic or Golden Rectangle – four planets Trine and Sextile to one another. Remember Phi, the Golden Angle and Golden Ratio we mentioned when we spoke recently of the Saturn-Uranus Phitile? Well, a Golden Rectangle is Golden because the ratio between the length of a Trine and the length of a Sextile is the Golden Ratio. The Energy of a Golden Rectangle arises from the Oppositions, but the Oppositions Bridge one another, so it represents a double puzzle with a ready solution. It’s a Hierophant, Teaching us as we walk through it. The Oppositions here are dwarf planet Chaos (Infinite Improbability) to Pallas-Pholus-Ixion (Protecting our Pathological Genius), and dwarf planets Haumea (Rebirth) to Eris (Revelation).
Our Pathological Genius is the irrepressible part of you that’s socially unacceptable, or at least your parents believed it to be, so they tried to beat it out of you. Since it’s irrepressible, you do it anyway, but you do your best to disguise it so no one notices. Which of course they do, if they’re at all observant. But they’re too polite to mention it. So you may as well just come out of whatever closet you think you’re hiding in, at least in the company of your closest friends. Turns out your Pathological Genius is just that, your Genius. Your one-of-a-kind Steve Jobs or Osho sort of character that most people can’t stand, but which the World really needs. You may not have noticed yet, but Pleasing sucks. It takes you to the lowest common denominator, just below Mediocre. The World needs you to be a Star instead, and you could easily displease most of the people most of the time being a Star. Do it anyway. For the Planet, before it becomes uninhabitable.
No question that it’s scary. Before you came to this Planet you “picked” these parents and Asked them to try to beat it out of you so you would be sure to become Conscious of it. Then you went into the cosmic simulator and programmed it to give you a bunch of Past Lives where you were put to Death because of it, so you’d be sure to have Karma around it, so you’d have to make a Conscious Choice to Dehabituate your Resistance to your Genius. Sure, you were put to Death, Ego Death. Well, you just did that last month, and you Lived through it. Your parents made sure that you Ego-Identify with the scam that you aren’t really who you really Are. We don’t get anywhere except Mediocrity without Ego Death. Yeah though I walk through the Valley of Ego Death. iDeath, as Brautigan called it when Jobs was just 13, thirty years before the iMac.
The adjectival form of Ego is “Political.” Ego is about Power. Power is never Given, it’s always Taken.