Venus and Mars

vill7359bpVilliaumite – Sodium Fluoride

Take the Chlorine out of Table Salt and put in Fluorine instead, and you have Villiaumite.  Sodium provides Structure, Fluorine the flexibility to break free of old Patterns and create Fresh Violets in  Ancient Pottery.

A couple of folks have asked me to write about the Venus-Mars thing, and while Venus is Retrograde it’s probably a good time.  I think of Venus as a teenage female, and Mars as a teenage male.  Why teenage?  Because that’s when the hormones rage most purely.  In a sustainable Village, teenagerhood is a stage between childhood and adulthood where Play and Consequences dance together to create some mix of Authenticity and Responsibility in Adulthood.

It’s okay to have “some mix” rather than full tilt Maturity because in a Village there’s a lot of redundancy between roles, and when one person cops out of a particular task that needs to get done, others are usually available to fill in – while the copping-out person is usually off doing some other task that needs doing.  In Western Culture, where the “Nuclear Family” reigns in place of the Village, “some mix” produces the nuclear disaster that we live in.

When “some mix” doesn’t do what needs doing, the kids have to fill in as best they can, and the result is that the kids miss critical elements of their childhood and teenagerhood, with the ultimate outcome that in the next generation “some mix” has yet bigger holes in the cumulative Authenticity and Responsibility.  Besides that, since the parents are by norm wage slaves away on the plantation, the kids end up in asylums called “schools,” where they’re treated like machines that need to be programmed, so the opportunities for unstructured Play are constrained, producing even bigger holes.

Then, when someone gets old enough to leave school, the opportunity for communal Play is greatly and suddenly diminished.  Consequently, we’re all left with unlearned Skills which we would have picked up through Play, and no opportunity to learn them remedially.  We can’t usually trot out our inner six-year-old at work so they can finish their lessons.  And trotting out our unfinished inner fifteen-year-old will get us busted for harassment.  So for all of us, there are unfinished elements of our Inner Female and Inner Male in our Psyche, many of them walled off by Shame.

Brené Brown on Shame…

There are a lot of these links in here, and they’re all very worthwhile, so I recommend you watch as many as you can, which may take you several sittings.  I had trouble hearing these, till I discovered the little “loudspeaker” symbol just to the right of the “start-stop” symbol in the lower left corner of the screen.

The antidote for Shame is Privacy – when we have unfinished growing to do that our Urge to Wholeness demands we try to finish, but our Shame and their Norms limit our ability to Learn in Community, we can move forward in Privacy.  Maybe.

Ed Snowden on Privacy…

We all understand on one level or another than Women and Men are different, and vive la différence.  Which is why we prize Androgyny.  Dynamism and Magnetism are very different Skills, and to one degree or another we all need both.  While Specialization has its advantages, so does redundancy.  The degree to which Dynamism (Plan, Do, Review) is associated with Male and Magnetism (PIAVA, Change the Subject, Pay Attention) associated with Female, is unfortunate, because the social pressure to Act out our nominal gender is often very strong.

Amanda Palmer on Asking and Sharing:

And of course, the more we Act out our nominal gender, the more we Project our hunger for Wholeness onto others.

In general, the Angle between our Natal Venus and our Natal Mars tells us how much work we may need to do to achieve Androgyny.  Those fortunate enough to be born with Venus Conjunct Mars are already there – only to spend much of their Life wondering why other people seem to have such strange ideas about Relationship – and/or What’s wrong with me that I’m not like everybody else?

A Square between Venus and Mars can be particularly nasty, because such a person isn’t here to enjoy the kind of external Relationship that Cultures mandate, they came here to explore the Edges of Relationship – only to spend much of their Life wondering why other people seem to have such apparent “success” about it – and/or What’s wrong with me that I’m not like everybody else?

Today we’re working on the complex April 2013 New-Moon Venus-Mars-Eris Cycle – a Cycle that begins a major reboot of our relationship to Dynamism and Magnetism, a reset that Eris will use to blow away a lot of Self-Sabotaging Cultural Mythologies about gender – I expect exponentially more than has already been happening.  It’s an unusually long Cycle, almost two years, as Venus goes Retrograde now, and then Mars on March 1.  That means it’s an important shift for us to Pay Attention to.

The Waxing Square of this Venus-Mars Cycle is triple – another flag advising Attention.  It reached its Can-Opener at the end of September 2013.  The Exposition will arrive at the Ides of January, and the Confidence-Builder just when Mars is Stationary on March 1.  The Venus-Mars Cycle is about “A young girl feeding birds in winter.” The Venus-Eris and Mars-Eris Cycles are developing the theme “A pregnant woman in a light summer dress.

Alisa Vitti on “Lady Parts”…

Familiar themes – unabashed Creativity and Nurturance.  Venus-Eris is also in the middle of a triple Square, this one Waning (in November, January, and February).  Mars-Eris is near Opposition, which will also be triple – in January, April, and July.

When we talk about Venus and Mars, we’re talking about Manifesting Power on the Material level.  Real Power derives from the outer planets, because they symbolize the currents in the all-Powerful Unconscious realms.  But that Power Manifests onto the Planet through Venus and Mars – our Magnetism and Dynamism.

Cameron Russell and The Representation Project on the pitfalls of trusting our Cultural gender programming, and shedding our Masks…

Amy Cuddy and Ivan Joseph on Body Language, Power, and Self-Talk…

Seema Anand and Ingrid Vanderveldt on the Manifestation process…

These videos are about 20 minutes each.  Watch them all, they’re very good and very relevant.  In addition to PIAVA, which is actually a fairly Dynamic form of Magnetism, the Venusian approach to the World emphasizes Unity, Synthesis, Connectedness, Empathy, Collaboration, Cooperation, and Both/And, while the Martian approach focuses more on Reductive Thinking, Either/Or, Analysis, Competition, and Separation.

When our Venus and our Mars don’t operate together, we Self-Sabotage because our Martian Actions don’t align with our Venusian Goals.  As Jung said, people who emphasize Thinking over Feeling are irrational, because they aren’t in touch with their own Values.

The British Royal Society of Arts and Roman Krznaric on Empathy

And finally, putting it all together on the bottom line, Jeremy Rifkin relates it all to the 2007-2010 Chiron-Neptune Fresh Violets in Ancient Pottery Initiation and its New Socioeconomic Paradigm that we’re just starting to Co-Create (this video’s almost an hour long, and worth every minute)…

Think of the “one and only Life” part as a Heuristic.  We still have seven years to go before we reach the final end of the Industrial Era.  The next 200-Year Era begins at 1 degree of Aquarius, “An old adobe mission in California” in December 2020.

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