Love them Living-Stone Daisies; amazing shades of color and design, on a Plant that’s barely there – that reddish bit on the right is the Plant. Looka the way the two on the left are holding hands and interlacing their many tiny fingers. Just saw Forks Over Knives – highly recommended!
Lots of us re-integrating Split-off parts of our Self, or too-frequent Walk-ins that wanna stay around for the Big Show. There’s a coupla rules for doing this cleanly and easily. We don’t even know many of our Partials, cuz they’re split off from us by a gulf of Shame, and if They was Us, there’s no way We could live with Us. Ifya really wanna stretch yer limits, ask yer friends to tellya about yer Hidden Partials – even if you never slip up and let yer friends see any of them, yer friends can still see the places where someone is AWOL.
It’s precisely how these moral-preaching Congressdudes and others can get caught with their paws and other body parts in the wrong panties, cuz their two Partials are split off from one another. “Multiple” is an official definition that allows yer shrink to bill yer insurance company, but we’re all Multiples, mostly in lesser ways than, for instance, the lady who had Cancer in One of her Multiples, and didn’t in the Others. Gives ya ideas, though, eh? It’s just about sliding a dimension boundary over a bit, so’s ya can slip through, like Owen after midnight.
It should be obvious we’re gonna have big problems with our personal pronouns when we start in on this Soul Retrieval stuff. If They is Us, then who is We? When a Partial that “we” (our everyday self) are ashamed of takes over, we become somebody else. Often we ain’t even home, cuz we couldn’t stand ourself. And when we come back home, we don’t allow any memory of that other Part – it’s simply too Shameful. Shame is the most debilitating emotion there is, and for most of us, it was the tool that our parents and other programmers used to keep us doing what they wanted us to be doing.
But if what they wanted us to do conflicted with what we had to do, all we could do is split off a Partial. We didn’t all come here to please Mum & Da, after all – more likely we “hired” Mum & Da to tell us we couldn’t do what we had to do, so we would never forget that we had to do it! That’s tricky; you might wanna read it a coupla times…
More likely we “hired” Mum & Da to forbid us from doing what we had to do, so we would never forget that we had to do it!
Their Hell did slowly go by, so there’s little chance they will understand anything about that.
At any rate, there comes a time when yer Everday Partial meets yer Shamed-Off Partial. Given where we are on the Callemander, it aint surprising that the time is a-coming for many of us. Rule Number One is
Ya Gotta be Proactive!
Chances are, yer Shamed-Off Partial will carry less weight (ie, will have spent less time behind yer glasses) than yer Everyday Partial. Yer Everyday Partial will be more grounded, more present, and have a more responsible, mature orientation toward Life, the Universe, and Everything, than yer Shamed-Off Partial (SOP), who will have only gotten the opportunity to come out and play on Full-Moon Nights.
So yer Everyday has to take Full Responsibility for being in charge of the re-integration process.
This is really important, cuz the gap in yer Everyday where yer SOP will be when yer integrated, has a hypercritical role to play in yer Mission. Just as a frinstance, when yer SOP comes home, you’ll stop sabotaging yerself.
You might be ashamed of yer SOP, but that ain’t because yer SOP is bad, it’s because yer Everyday was taught to believe that yer SOP’s behavior was unacceptable. So the first step in taking Full Responsibility is to commit to being only loving and gentle with yer SOP, and with yer (Everyday) Self while yer suffering through the Shame of re-integration. That ain’t gonna be easy, cuz yer Everyday’ll be reversing some prejudices they’ve held all their life, most at a level far below the level of consciousness.
You’ll be unlocking and releasing a Trance that yer programmers installed, probably before you were even verbal. Do we even have such a thing as memory before we were verbal? Good chance it’s also a Trance from many lifetimes back, which makes the concept of “memory” even more vague. How can we change a Trance we don’t even remember? This is why we need Rule Two…
Only Love is Allowed
When yer Everyday strays from Pure Compassion toward yer SOP, you gotta be totally loving and gentle with yer Everyday. It’s a Challenge, it’s ancient programming that is not connected to any sense of Cause and Effect, so it’s not something that’s open to understanding. Only blind acceptance will work.
And notice that yer required to split again – “you” have to be loving and gentle with yer Everyday – well, if “you” are yer Everyday, who is this other “you” gonna be? That ain’t trivial. You’re gonna hafta use every model you can muster for blind Compassion – Christ, Mother Teresa, Buddha, Kuan Yin, Terrence Malick, Green Tara – whoever you can muster up to use as a temporary model for this Walk-In that’s gonna help Everyday take Full Responsibility. You just need to understand that
Only Blind Compassion will Create Re-Integration
and Ask for help from yer Guides and these Angels. They’ll jump at the chance to help, once ya Ask, cuz for most of us, Compassion isn’t our strongest suit, and we don’t got alotta practice with it.
So now you’ve got an Everyday who, after being shocked by meeting this SOP, now has to work his butt off reversing his ancient prejudices – while taking Full Responsibility for being loving and gentle with yer SOP! Not a possible assignment, even should you choose to accept it. So whaddaya do? Rule Three is
One Day at a Time
or rather, One Minute at a Time. Yer gonna win some and lose some. It’ll be stressful. It ain’t how many times ya fall down, it’s how many times ya get up.
Yer gonna hafta constantly remind yerself that yer being graced with a huuuge opportunity, cuz it’s gonna feel like yer being dragged through Pergatory.
Thing is, if yer SOP wasn’t a critical piece of yer Mission on the Planet, it would never have been important enough to hide from the Nazis. Splitting Off is a form of Protection, like the Witness Protection Program. Yer SOP stayed safe cuz the wall of Shame was impenetrable.
And now, time is getting short, and we all gotta get on with our Missions. So it’s time to re-integrate, which means we gotta wash our faces with all that green, slimy Shame. Moment to moment, we just do the best we can to be loving and gentle with our Rejected Self, and loving and gentle with our Rejecting Self. The Fourth Rule is
Victory Builds on Itself
That won’t be easy to notice, when yer struggling to be Compassionate with two at-odds folks who both so clearly need yer Unconditional Love, and both of which are so certain there will be Conditions. You’ll be working hard to get each of them to trust you. Yer Everyday will be wanting you to join them in rejecting yer SOP – that’s what Alan Watts meant when he said that yer good Karma‘s a lot harder to release than yer bad Karma. And yer SOP will be craving your empathy and sympathy for their Victimhood and Shame and Abandonment. And that’s after they quit shouting at each other.
“You” meanwhile, will be saying to each of them, over and over again, calmly and quietly…
“Yes, I know you feel that way, and I’m not rejecting you for it. But that Day is finished, and a new Day is dawning, and we need a whole ‘nother approach. Lemme know when yer ready to consider this, okay?”
Then, when they’re ready, “you” will already have a good deal of experience imitating yer Compassion models, and you can begin to teach the two of them to first tolerate, then embrace, one another.
This is not something you do inna weekend, even with help. You might get a good Soul Retrieval inna weekend, but that still leaves you to do the hard work of the actual re-integration. Normally, a coupla years is more like it, and we ain’t got a coupla years. Fortunately, Time is still getting faster and faster, which means we may well be able to do a coupla years’ worth of work in a few weeks, once we put our minds to it. Each little Victory really does make the next one a thousand times easier. Much of the time, we’ll be battling our own negative expectations, more than negative outcomes.
A month late, Native Blackberries begin to ripen.
The FairyFolk in these realms know a whole bunch about Splitting Off to stay safe, and they’re getting ready for their own re-integration with us. That’ll be as big, and as initially contentious (think ADM or Monsanto), as anything we’re experiencing with our own Shame. If the Druidic view that the Planet will come to Grace only through the Three-fold Alliance of Human and Fairy and Critter, then our practice with our own Shame is just that, practice for a far larger Cosmic assignment that will have the same rules –
- We Gotta be Proactive,
- Only Love is Allowed,
- One Moment at a Time,
- Victory Builds on Itself.
Truth is, if all this work with Identity has loosened anyone enough to be able to start to hear it, it’s Individual Identity that’s the Base Illusion on this Planet. We personalize everything because of a deeper level of the same kinda Trance that mirrors away our SOPs. In Real Life, Identity is fluid as can be, and Boundaries constantly float hither and thon. “Us” is a quantum superposition, our Everyday is an average. And like most real variables, the standard deviation is larger than the average. That means we’re more like them than we are like us. The Absence of Separation between Mother and Infant is not a rare miracle – it’s the natural state of things. Nothing actually that yer Priest or Minister or Preacher or Imam or Guru hasn’t said a hundred times.
Fact is, as we experience these very very personal SOP processes – we can’t even talk about them to more than a few people if that – as belonging to only us, they are actually not personal at all, but a glimpse into the larger integration that’s already well under way on the Planet, which we introject (take as our own) because we don’t know any better. We actually just dropped in to watch the Big Show here at the End of It All, and the Big Show is in Experience-A-Vision. Does a little more than just rock your chair about.
Once you and yer SOP get chummy, come on back and bite down on these notions, see if you have room for them in yer space. They’re big, but they can save you alotta pain if you open to learning them, while remembering that it’s always Both/And.
Not to forget the Third Wing of the Three-fold Alliance. This is a candid paparazzi snap of Her Great Cottontailed Bunniness, the Ultimate Bunny of the Third Richness, contemplating Responsibility in a quiet moment in the Clover Room. We know who She is cuz we tapped her mobile frequency. Compassionately, of course.